Nothing stood the business world on its ear like the concept of emotional intelligence and its effect on a person’s success in the corporate world. Emotional Intelligence is the ability to recognize your own emotions and keep them in control, and to recognize others’ emotions as well. Studies have shown that people with greater “emotional intelligence” are more stable and are better leaders, and they perform better at the office.
There’s a book about it by Daniel Goleman, if you care to check it out. You probably should.
At any rate, if you believe in “emotional intelligence” the next step is getting some for yourself. Well, you already have a natural level of emotional intelligence, just like you have a level of actual intelligence. And just like your actual intelligence, you can increase it a little with some studying. Here are a few hints to enhancing your emotional intelligence.
Get in touch with how you feel – This might sound a little elementary, but it’s more complicated than you think! Emotions are more complicated than “happy” and “sad,” so spend some time thinking about what you feel and why you’re feeling it. Force yourself to stop and take pause a few times a day. Ask yourself, “What am I feeling?” Ask yourself what the origin of that feeling might be. Pay attention to your physical reaction as well.
How do you act when you’re feeling that way? – Emotions will always impact your actions and reactions. Start paying attention to how you behave when you’re frustrated, when you’ve just been given bad news or have been sent back to the drawing board. Is the little voice in your head eating away at your confidence? Is that affecting how you communicate, how you act around others? Pay attention, and take responsibility for your behaviors.
Reduce negative emotions – I know, I know. How do I do that? Well, it’s not easy. But you can try. Stop jumping to negative conclusions. Quit listening to that little voice in your head chipping away at your self-confidence. Think about all the ways you can view a situation before you act on it. One of my managers told me once, “There’s really no place in business – or in life – for anger. You can accomplish everything you want, and overcome every obstacle, without it.”
Focus on others, and less on yourself – This can be a hard one. You spend a lot of time at the office doing the best job you can do so you will get praise and more money. Emotionally intelligent people focus on others. Look at what your co-workers bring to the table, what their individual strengths are. Learn what motivates them, and rely on that knowledge when you need to bring people together to work on a project.
Be a pleasure to work with, and explore new things – Be the person other people like to be around. Be fun, be adventurous, and try to bring out that same attitude in others. Don’t ever stop learning.
Easier to read than to accomplish? That may be true, but one can only grow by pushing yourself and exploring new territory. So go out there and improve your emotional intelligence – the effort will take you far!
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