I follow every possible business magazine on Twitter. I love to read the articles and ponder how the ideas contained within affect the Revolutionary Assistant and the way she does her job.
One thing that I’ve noticed lately is that everyone has a list of habits. Just this week, I have been able to add “Seven Habits of Emotionally Intelligent People” and “Four Habits of Highly Resilient People” to the long list of habit lists started by the age-old “Seven Habits of Highly Effective People.” In fact, all you have to do is pick a number and type “habits” next to it in Google Search and you’ll get a wealth of information about how to be a happy couple, make better decisions, not get fat, and so on.
So, what’s the right list of habits? Who do you listen to? Well, I’ve been reviewing all of them for you, and I think that they’re all doing a lot of talking about the same elements. They may call them something different, but they’re pretty much all talking about these:
Umpteen-1: Be positive. No one likes a Debbie Downer, and Debbie Downers don’t usually take time from their belly-aching to envision themselves becoming successful, let alone achieving it. But, more than the power of being positive in your head is the power of being positive with everyone else. To paraphrase your mother, it’s never what you know, it’s who you know. You’ll meet a lot of people along your road to success, and the friends you make will sometimes open doors for you. No one wants to open a door for a Debbie Downer. Everyone wants to smack Debbie Downer.
Umpteen -2: Be a cheerleader. That is, see the good in everyone around you. Don’t speak badly about them to make yourself look better, don’t deny them an opportunity because you think you should have it. Champion people rather than criticize. Consider your actions and make sure that they benefit others as much as they benefit you. And be genuine. These people will be your team and, sometimes, your guiding light.
Umpteen-3: Start out with the end in mind. When you begin a project, or even a life-long goal, you should know what the end looks like, and how you’re going to get there. Granted, your plan and real life might not always look exactly the same, but it’s important to at least think you know where you’re going.
Umpteen-4: Be a good listener. As Steven Covey put it, “Seek first to understand, then be understood.” This comes up over and over again. Not only do you get to absorb what others think and say, your willingness to listen makes them infinitely more open and responsive to you. And please do that listening without your cell phone and your iPad and your computer. Be 100% present for others.
Umpteen-5: Have confidence. If you don’t believe in yourself and your abilities, no one else will. That means being assertive when you have to, setting boundaries when you have to, asking for help when you need to, being humble always. If you know what you’re talking about and where you’re going, these qualities will come naturally.
Umpteen-6: Understand that you won’t get there by yourself. Everyone needs a mentor, everyone needs someone to open a metaphorical door for them now and then. If you’re positive, if you’re a cheerleader and a good listener, there will be people everywhere to help you do that. If they’re not making things happen for you because they’re at the next level, they’re working for you, and doing a good job because they believe in what you’re doing.
Umpteen-7: All work and no play make Jack a very dull boy. Take care of yourself. Pursue your goals at work, but pursue a healthy, happy lifestyle outside of work as well. If you are in good spirits mentally and in good health physically, you’ll be ready to work harder for your success.
Throughout the next week or so, I’ll share some of the “habit” articles I’ve encountered recently, and you will see for yourself that this is the common theme. Of course, there are plenty of other little helpful hints that can be had along the way, too, so happy Revolutionary reading!
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